The last week has been probably the fullest and most stressful for quite a while. If I want to be scientific about it, rather than joking about the above mentioned curse, I think what is going on in the world is a reflection of the last 3 or 4 years. Most people can't and won't connect the personal to the general, but as a Marxist, it is easy for me. Understanding the general trends, the causes and then consequences of the events, traumas, wars, etc., is vital not to immerse yourself in an apocalyptic drama, which produces mental and physical sickness, depression, suicides and all the tragic results of the turmoil the world is currently in.
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| The Forge, Stephen's new comedy club |
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| John Bishop at the Forge |
You may remember what had happened to Stephen nearly 2 years ago, when The Komedia in Brighton, without any warning, cause or niceties, cancelled his 25 year old contract and he lost the club that he created and made famous all over the country and beyond. He, being a brilliant, resilient and resourceful guy, and with the help of his friends, family and his enormous fan club, survived and is now building an equally - or possibly even more - famous club of his own, also in Brighton. Note the figure of 25 years!
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| Alex in his favourite kayak |
This number seems to be favoured by disloyal, unfair and outright evil people and organisations, which this time round did the same to Alex. I can't and shouldn't go into details, as this round of his existential fight by someone I love, is still ongoing, and anyway, I wouldn't honour them by writing about them, but he is now in the same, possibly even worse, position than his brother was nearly 2 years ago. However, I have no doubt he will survive, come back full of life and will benefit from it in the long run.
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| My Canadian family |
Needless to say, this has been awfully stressful for me, but in trying to see the good in every bad turn in one's life, which is actually the only survival technique I can recommend to anyone, I found out new things about my boy I have never realised were there. I am incredibly proud of him for handling this trauma the way he did, and wish him the best outcome possible. His forbearance, his belief in the good in himself and in others, are fundamental to his being and no matter how much suffering he went and still going through, he did not allow any of it touch his inner self. Good on you Alex, we love you and just to quote your father: "Don't let the bastards grind you down!"
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| The ominous half fallen tree branch |
Just to stay with family: You may also know some bits of the less than harmonious relationship with my sister. We have been estranged for decades, partly due to her bad relationship with our mother, and partly due to the physical distance between the UK and Hungary, until in the late 1990's, when we met up again and ended up living a few doors from each other. I was then really pleased to pick up the relationship and hoping to have a close, neighbourly and sisterly friendship with her. Well, that has never happened. For whatever reason, she had never considered me a member of her family, or at least, it seemed to me that she felt like that, judging from how she treated me.
Still, I hate discord, and in the years since Roy and I have tried to maintain at least a good diplomatic relationship, which naturally had its ups and downs. Until yesterday, when I have decided that I do not wish to know her and her son any more. She had been in a bad mood, getting at me for the noise our air conditioner delivery van made and having had a very stressful week behind me, I responded in kind. Roy was absolutely outraged at her being rude and aggressive, when we tried to help her about some fallen tree branch, which endangered her life in her garden, followed by a phone call from her son, which implied that I was bothering my sister. That was it. I returned her house keys to her and wrote to her son about our decision. God knows what will follow, but as I had written to her son, I am also quite elderly now and have a heart condition, so need to reduce my stress, not increase it. Some aspects of life are beyond my control, but this one isn't, so I am exercising my right to look after no. 1 for once.
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| Zsófi, one of the leading comrades of Fáklya |
Phewwww! Having got all this off my chest, let us look at some happier happenings in the last 7 days! I left last week by mentioning that we were off to BP and I was going to attend my first proper IMT branch meeting in Hungary with those lovely youngsters I met recently. Well, that was quite a good meeting, the discussion was about the organisational methodology of the IMT, which was proposed by Levente, one of the leading comrades and I made a few comments, based on my experience, and they were well received. I paid my subs for the first couple of months and am now a proper member of this lovely little group.
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| Levente, the other leading cde |
The absolute highlight of the evening, however, was that they invited me to go to the Gólya with them for a chat and a drink. The Gólya is a fascinating place with an interesting history, which Zsófi, another leading comrade, had told me about. The building was an old industrial storage unit, which was in the process of falling down, when a bunch of young left leaning friends have bought it to provide a base for those groups, both commercial, cultural and political, that could not afford anything else. They renovated it with their own hands and to this day it houses as many left groups as they can squeeze in. They did need a bank loan, which they are still paying back, but having shown a sharp commercial as well as social and political good sense, it is still going strong.
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| Gólya roof garden |
They asked me questions about the past, how I joined the IMT all those years ago and listened intently to my answers. You cannot imagine how much I enjoyed this. These young people need my experience and perspectives to thrive, and this makes me happy. At the same time, they are doing so much for me, making me feel wanted, useful and intellectually stimulated that this is definitely a win win situation, if I ever saw one. We spent most of the time we were there, sitting on the roof, which is a nicely converted bar garden and in the high heat that was around that night, was a good place to be. The bar is further down in the building, but run by volunteers, and selling cheap drinks and snacks, that is the part that provides the finance to make the whole enterprise run well, and has also become a central focus for left leaning organisations of all sorts. En route home the skies have opened, and it was a very happy drowned rat that got home, but I didn't mind, was really happy and adrenaline helped me last until past midnight, which is very rare for me nowadays.
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| One of the books I recently bought |
We stayed an extra day last week after the branch meeting, as we had quite a lot of shopping and other matters to attend to. So, on Thursday we bought some light bulbs, logbooks for geocaching, 3 large loaves of sourdough bread from Doktor & Pék, fetched a couple of books from the bookshop that I have ordered online, bought some groceries from the COOP and picked up all my medicines for the next 3 months from the pharmacy.
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| Our pristine new mobile air conditioner |
In the afternoon the AC guy came to measure up for having air conditioning, finally, and we're also buying two mobile AC units, one for elsewhere in the flat, the other for Bér. He was quick and efficient and promised we'll get a quote in due course. The quote has arrived the following day, and yes, it does cost an arm and a leg, but I don't care. We are both suffering from the extreme heat the summers usually bring nowadays, and the cost is not the first consideration. I only discovered later, that the quote did not include VAT, so I had to add 27% to the total. At current exchange rates the static one with installation, with the two mobile ones came to about £2000, which is about the going price for a good quality AC. Needless to say, it was made in China, like everything else is nowadays, but we do have 5 years' guarantee on it, the last two only for the compressor, so it is a fair deal, I think. Also, both the chief guy and the service manager on the phone sounded great. You know, when you have the feeling that somebody is professional, knowledgeable and has a nice manner and even a bit of a sense of humour, that usually makes you trust the outfit. Let us hope, they do not prove my impressions wrong!
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The rest of the day consisted of watching TV and Netflix on the computer. We could have watched Netflix on the TV too, but I didn't have the laptop with me and I can only have the connection established from that piece of kit. I watched the program about the Chicago 7, which I found fascinating. Exciting bit of history, good script, acting and direction. It really took my mind off my troubles. Alex was on Messenger every day by that time, which was stressful, but I was so pleased to be able to help to him. He has been reticent in the past to use me for stress relief or advice. Well, his stress was overwhelming this time round and finally he found me and used me for survival assistance. It was hard work, but I was so pleased, and still am helping him.
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When we got home, we realised that the busy July events in the offing are getting closer and closer. Alex is coming to visit us in less than a fortnight, I am organising a visit to a cave for a group of about half a dozen, to get the geocache down there, then we will have my 75th Birthday weekend in Bér, and 2 weeks later we are having another one, this time with old orienteering friends. So, there is plenty to be getting on with.
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| Left: as it was; Right: after scrubbing it |
We started doing things in the garden, first job was to clean the back patio, which got quite badly discoloured by acid rain over the last few years. The next job was to cut down the jungle that grew up over the last few years on the outside of the back gate. Ever since that was built, we hardly ever used it, either as a personal or as a commercial entrance. It is big enough for a small to medium size truck to drive through it, but as we didn't have a need to have anything large delivered, it ended up unused. The scrub is ferocious in these parts and especially recently, with a lot of rain and then high heat, it looked impassable and it was.
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| The back gate after clearing the scrub |
One morning when Roy was too quiet, I found him missing, and eventually found him fighting the jungle at the back gate. I joined him and between us we made a quick job of it. I also cleaned my parents memorial near the back gate, as in spite of the fact that it is covered in a slab of marble, that also ended up rather black over the last few years. Unfortunately, the fruit harvest is going to be, and has already been very poor. There is some malady that causes shriveled up leaves and no fruit in quite a few trees. I think we will have some apples, pears and had half a dozen edible Morello cherries, but everything else has either been and gone with nothing or is not promising anything good.
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| Salmon rose by the gate |
On the other hand, the roses are lovely. One bad downpour unfortunately damaged the climbers a bit, but generally speaking the roses are very pretty again, good to cheer me up outside my window. Talking of outside my window, methinks we will move back up to our old bedroom sometime soon, especially after Roy installing the air conditioner, that arrived yesterday. We need to work out how to fix the hot air extraction pipe, and then we will have a cool bedroom upstairs. Carrying the beds up will be quite heavy, but I am really thinking that 3 years and a month is enough for both of us to sleep on the ground floor.
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| Elian on his birthday present |
Another lovely event this last week was Elian's 11th birthday. Unfortunately, Stephen was in Singapore on the actual day, so we didn't get a call from them, but a few days later we could see him opening his birthday present from us. It turned out that Stephen bought with the money we sent a gadget, which looks like a climbing frame, but is basically a frame where they can do pull ups and other useful strengthening exercises. Elian is now so heavily into rock climbing, that he needs it.
One slightly less happy bit of news on the other hand is that Stephen and the kids will not come to visit us before next year now. Apparently, airfares have gone through the roof and it is unaffordable. Stephen is hoping to book really early next year and turn up in February half term. We are keeping our fingers crossed, as we are no longer planning trips going the other way, on account of our advanced years. Neither flying, nor sleeping in anything other than our own beds is not easy for us nowadays.
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| A glorious red rose in the yard |
Well, I did warn you that this is going to be a long saga this week, and it most certainly is. Still, I am only really writing for myself, as an online diary of happenings and thoughts, and should anybody else read it, that is a bonus. I have to watch TV and Netflix in the summer, as my favourite programs are not online at this time. However, the other day I realised that there are still some episodes of regular programs that I don't normally watch and ended up realising that I have been silly not watching the new Equalizer with Queen Latifah, which was brilliant. Only the last three episodes of series 3 was available, but I will put it on my regular watching schedule next year, I enjoyed it so much.
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| Queen Latifah |
Must stop now, hopefully I'll be back next week, but promise you a considerably shorter saga then. That's assuming that anybody had read this one to the end. 💖
















































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